Start with what is happening now
A greeting followed by an open question gives the other person room to answer. Try ‘What has been the best part of your day?’ or ‘What would you like to talk about?’ If the response is brief, offer your own short answer before asking another question. Avoid rapid questions that feel like an interview.
Notice the pace and respect a no
Leave space for the other person to respond. If they do not want to discuss a subject, switch topics. You can end politely when the exchange feels forced. A match is a chance to talk, not a promise of friendship or chemistry.
Protect the first few minutes
Use a nickname if you prefer. Keep your full name, workplace, exact location, social handles and contact details to yourself. Check the camera background for identifying objects. bluured starts with face blur, but your voice and surroundings can still reveal information.
What if I have nothing to say?
Ask one open question about a light topic, such as a recent film, music or the other person's day. If the conversation does not flow, it is fine to leave and try another match.
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